Beth Hossfeld, MFT

When Violence Occurs: Helping Children & Finding Support

December 17, 2012
We are heartbroken, devastated, and profoundly shaken by the tragic shootings in Newtown, CT on Friday, December 14, 2012. As with all incidents of senseless violence, we ache for the families who have lost loved ones, and wish for healing in their difficult days, months and years ahead.

This link by David Fassler, MD, with the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry provides a guide for parents, teachers, and caregivers on how to talk with children about community violence:

It's so important to avoid media coverage for young children when violence has occurred. If not possible, then limit that exposure as much as possible and visit with children about what's been seen and heard. A helpful guide for parents on media exposure after a violent incident can be found at the National Child Traumatic Stress Network: The site has many excellent resources for caretakers and professionals to support children and adolescents affected by trauma.

During such difficult times, all of us need comfort, support, time, soothing activities (i.e., nature, games, creative and expressive arts, music, sports, faith or spiritual practices, etc.) and especially, times with loved ones. Actively connecting with others is one of the most important and restorative human experiences.

When we are lonely or isolated, grieving and/or facing transitions in life, these times are all the more challenging. It takes courage to reach out but doing so can make a difference in our well-being. If neighbors, friends, or loved ones are not available, please do not hesitate to call a local or national hotline for support, referral, or a caring person to talk with.

Below is a list of support hotlines.

Take care,

U.S. Helplines

US Suicide Hotline 1-800-784-2433
NDMDA Depression Hotline – Support Group 800-826-3632
Suicide Prevention Services Crisis Hotline 800-784-2433
Suicide Prevention Services Depression Hotline 630-482-9696
AAA Crisis Pregnancy Center 800-560-0717
Child Abuse Hotline – Support & Information 800-792-5200
Crisis Help Line – For Any Kind of Crisis 800-233-4357
Domestic & Teen Dating Violence (English & Spanish) 800-992-2600
Parental Stress Hotline – Help for Parents 800-632-8188
Runaway Hotline (All Calls are Confidential) 800-231-6946
Sexual Assault Hotline (24/7, English & Spanish) 800-223-5001
Suicide & Depression Hotline – Covenant House 800-999-9999
National Child Abuse Hotline 800-422-4453
National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE
National Domestic Violence Hotline (TDD) 800-787-3224
National Youth Crisis Hotline 800-448-4663


Keeping Perspective in the Aftermath of Natural Disasters

March 15, 2011
Japan's catastrophic quake, tsunami, and nuclear reactor meltdown have people across the globe feeling great concern, sadness, and compassion for the people of Japan. Numerous organizations are helping out and many sites list how we can help.

The internet, facebook, twitter, television and radio provide constant updates that help families and friends stay connected, re-connect, or learn about the outcomes of their loved ones.

But with so much bad news, far beyond normal human experience, those ...
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Marin Teen Girls Conference March 5

March 5, 2011
I'm looking forward to tomorrow - the Marin Teen Girls Conference at Embassy Suites.
I'll be volunteering so that I can witness about two hundred middle and high school girls
coming together for community, gender-relevant topics, fun, and sisterhood.

Topics were generated by girls and cover alcohol and drug awareness, being smart about sex, friendships, eating and body image, communication in families, setting healthy boundaries, relationships, inner health-mental health.
These are topics provide...
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Transitions are Tough; Routines Can Help

February 28, 2011
Today is Monday, February 28, and it's a day of transition for many folks.
Mondays are a common day of transition as so many get back to school and work.
After a school break as many experienced last week, the transition is even harder.
For millions of families, the transition includes children returning to one of their parents' homes after spending a week or a long weekend with the other parent.

How do you feel on transition days?
How does your child or teen respond?

The work of transition is an e...
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Welcome to My Blog!

February 26, 2011
Hello and thanks for visiting my blog!

You may find yourself looking for a path or way to manage best under the stress of a challenging day, a difficult relationship, a personal predicament,  a school or work problem, or a financial hardship.

Under stress, the first best thing to do is to breathe.  Inhale slowly and exhale slowly, in a natural way. Although we usually want to hurry up and fix a problem or find a solution, when we bring our attention to our breath, we refresh our minds and bodie...
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